An Au Pair, a long lost cousin from another country.

The new Au Pair is coming to the first time Host Family in NJ. It is an exciting moment. The host mom had emailed me several times with her questions and asked me how she can help her new Au Pair, Maria, adjust quickly to her new life, find college classes and make friends.
First three days an Au Par usually spends with other Au Pairs in goAUPAIR’s free workshop in NYC. The workshop includes 32 hours of training on safety and child development and guided tour of New York City.

When an Au Pair gets to her Host Family, everything will be absolutely new for her. She is a very long way from home, where she probably had a very different lifestyle, sleeping cycles, eating patterns, and daily activities. Here, she will have no friends, language difficulties and cultural shock.  She will have to get used to her new place, host family members, lifestyle, culture and food.

My advice would be to give her some time. Be patient. Patience and understanding will help your Au Pair to adjust.  Giving her positive feedback, support, and praise when she gets things right, will also aid in the transition. It is important to treat your Au Pair like a family member, remember and respect her cultural differences. If she feels like a valued family member, she will want to contribute to the family and try hard to do her very best.

In order to assure a smooth transition, it might be helpful to encourage your Au Pair to spend time with host family in her free time, and not to hurry to her room to call, skype or email home. Also, encourage her to make a connections with other Au Pairs, attend Au Pair meetings, get started with college classes and other activities in the States.

I am proud to say that my new host family mentioned that they are going to treat Maria like “a long lost cousin from another country and to make her happy in their family”.

Happy Au Pairs means happy children and happy families!
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