How to resolve a conflict.

Conflicts are everywhere: at home, at work, on the street.

It is important to an Au Pair to learn how to avoid conflicts and how to resolve a conflict, especially when you live in a new environment with a new people, and a host family. There are many personal and cultural differences, a different set of norms and behaviors that Au Pairs meet and learn to deal with in their everyday life.

When a conflict arises, there are always two participants and both sides are guilty. Ask yourself the question: what is more important to me – to prove my innocence or to save the relationship?

Ability to deal with the conflict and get out of the conflict in a good mood can help an Au Pair to improve the quality of her stay. So, if you’re unable to escape a conflict, then let’s try to resolve the conflict:

Take the first step.  Taking the first step will never mean that you are weaker. On the contrary, it shows how strong you are and your strive for self-control.

Stop the accusations.  Stop blaming people of all mortal sins. The best tactic is the following: reduction of tone – a desire to withdraw from the conflict and a public announcement about this – compliment your opponent.

Apologize. Take another step -ask for forgiveness. No matter who originally was guilty, you took part in the quarrel,so another spoiled his nerves. Apologize for that. You get rid of the large negative load and that benefit the relationship.

Come out of the conflict with dignity and understanding something new.

3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Emeline
    Jul 31, 2012 @ 07:26:34

    simply, admirable what you have done here. it is pleasing to look you express from the heart. great post and will look forward to your future update.

    Reply

  2. Go Au Pair Philadelphia
    Aug 10, 2012 @ 17:44:36

    Thank you, Emeline. I appreciate your kind words.

    Reply

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