Why does the Au Pair stay in Au Pair’s room all the time ?

Sometimes Host Parents notice that their Au Pair spends most of her free time in Au Pair’s room. What is the reason? There can be many. Guess why?

Not sure? Simply ask her. The Au Pair  may try to figure out how to balance being a family member and being an employee. She may feel that she needs to give the host family space to be a “family” and steps back to Aupair Room.

Most host families want their Au Pair to be a new member of the family, not just an employee. “...I found hard to live with… a girl who disappeared into her room the second her shift was over, and never came out on weekends, even when she was home”.

How to make the Au Pair more a part of the family? Speak with her and let her know that you like her to be around and be a family member. Encourage your Au Pair to spend quality time together, sharing news and watching movies at night.

Invite the Au Pair to movies, games, parties and some events that she might want to attend on weekend.  Ask her in advance if she wants to go on a trip or to a park and the sea-shore together with your family.

An Au Pair room- feel at home

Many host parents, especially parents who are new to the Au Pair program, wonder about the best way to prepare a comfortable and welcoming room that a new Au Pair feels at home right away.  Au Pair’s room is supposed to be clean, properly lighted,  and  nicely furnished and decorated.  That will help the Au Pair adjust to a new life and environment quickly.

How to make an Au Pair feel at home?  Encourage your kids to make handmade cards and welcome signs. You may take some of the photos from your au pair’s application and put them in frames in her room.  Ask the Au Pair what she likes to have in her room. Please read more An Au Pair’s room in the host family home.

The host family may give the Au Pair the freedom to customize her living space on her own so it can be close to the room arrangement she had at home which might help her feel less lonely. That way an Au Pair will have the perfect place to rest, relax and study for classes.

The word “Au Pair” is a French term, which means ”on par” or “equal to”, referring to living on an equal basis, so an Au Pair  lives as an equal member of a host family and should feel at home there.

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